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A Little Respect

Journal Entry: Mon Jul 28, 2014, 12:57 PM
I am MDA. I am a cosplayer. An artist, graphic designer. I am a photographer & videographer. I am an event organizer & entrepreneur. But most of all, I am a human being.

I'm a person with feelings, thoughts, opinions. I have anxiety issues both social and personal. I have my comfort levels.

Key words in those two paragraphs: Comfort levels, opinions, anxiety, human being.

Since the announcement last September of me cosplaying Kneesocks for Otakuthon next month, I have received more then 80 messages/comments about what is expected of me. What is requested of me. Well, I am going to flat out say it now so that maybe people will STFU.

YOUR REQUESTS/EXPECTATIONS/SUGGESTIONS/DEMANDS ARE NOT WITHIN MY COMFORT ZONES!!!!

Please, the things that have been asked of me are not within my comfort. And people seem to only get mad that I won't do them because of that. I'm sorry, but you are not being respectful of me by pushing for me to do what I'm not ok to do.

In addition to these, I'm not ok with sexual comments either. Please, you are not going to change my view of them. I do not like them. I find them disgusting and unnerving. I have received messages that have plain unnerved me.

Yes, I get that sexy cosplay is very popular. Yes, I have expected it. But this does not mean that I have to put up with people being rude and/or disrespectful.

I am tired of being treated like a sexual object. Or being seen as someone who exists for your entertainment. If you want to ogle at sexual images, go to Rule 34 or some porn site. Because you are not going to get it from me.

Yes I said that I will do fanservice, but TASTEFUL! GET IT?

If you're only on my page for skimpy cosplays that show off my butt, legs, stomach or chest, then you are going to miss out on a lot. Most of my cosplays are very covering. It is the ones that cover me that get the most dedication.

By saying that you want me to do sexual things in cosplay, you are not being respectful to my decisions to do what I'm ok with. By being upset that I'm not ok with sexual comments, you are not being respectful of the fact that I am put off by them.

The more people push for me to do such things, the more it sets me off them, and withdraw back to my comfort of the cosplays that cover everything. You know what my favourite cosplays are?

Izayoi (Inuyasha) - only skin shown is hands and face
Roxas (Kingdom Hearts) - only neck and face shown
Anti-Riku (Kingdom Hearts) - no skin shown whatsoever, not even face
Neuro (Majin Tantei Nougami Neuro) - only face is seen

I do the sexy ones if I like the character enough. I do them to help break out of my shell a little bit. But with everyone's disrespect of my choices, and views, and opinions, it makes me want to quit them all together.

So please, be respectful of my choices not to do what I'm not ok with. Be respectful of my choice to not have sexual comments directed at me. Please. A little respect goes a long way.

  • Mood: Frustrated
  • Eating: croissant
  • Drinking: coffee
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Spiked-Fox Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Unfortunately, you can never stop idiots from being... idiots.
They are too stupid to understand what you said. They are too stupid to understand the notion of respect. And they are too stupid to give a damn about another human being.

Clever and caring people already know this... instinctively too. They are the one who matter.
Idiots don't matter. They'll eventually strap themselves onto something deadly for fun and kicks and remove themselves from the gene pool... hopefully.
Or stay alone forever and therefore remove themselves from the gene pool... hopefully.
...or simply provide entertainment for the rest of the population.

Did you really say a certain "friend" is the biggest part of this problem?
Well... let me ask you a question then...
Why on Earth are you still in touch with that person!?!? They should've been blocked, deleted, eliminated, destroyed, humilated, and denounced at the VERY first sign of such disrespect. A "no" is a "no", not only when it comes to intercourse. This is sexual harassment. This is against the law. You CAN call the cops on his ass if he refuses to listen.
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Midnight-Dance-Angel Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
One can hope though that people will smarten up. Starting to give up. I'm probably far too lenient about things with giving people chances to smarten up. But I have blocked and removed people for their arrogance.

And yeah, friend. I haven't talked to her in a few days. I thought she was starting to get it through her head that I was not ok with this, but her anger towards me about not doing what I'm not ok with fueled me to write this. Unless she apologizes, I won't be dealing with her again.
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Spiked-Fox Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Good thing. Such "friends" don't deserve your attention and caring.
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NeferCosplay Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2014
Arg, so it continues -_-; I know who you're talking about, and I seriously don't get why a 'friend' won't stop pushing you to do something you're NOT comfortable with, seriously wth!?

And I'll be there to take pics for you so you can show everyone that sexy doesn't necessary mean sexual ^_~
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Midnight-Dance-Angel Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Yush! I shall prove a point with this cosplay!
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NeferCosplay Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014
You go girl! Make it a second Kuja! :D And if someone bothers you at the con...you have the right to borrow my masamune ^_~ Heck, you have the right to borrow ME so I can kick their ass for ya x"D
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Midnight-Dance-Angel Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
HAHA YES! The new Kuja is Kneesocks xD How ironic both show a lot and start with a K and are baddies xD
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NeferCosplay Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
Go figure lol. Next will be...Kefka! Wait he's covered, guess he doesn't count, shoot...x"D
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Midnight-Dance-Angel Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Not quite xD Watch, I'll find something xD
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TifaIA Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
People of the internet are jerks. Most are good. The rest are asshats.

Stand tall and be proud. We're behind you all the way.
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